Wednesday, February 1, 2012

An Explanation Before Moving On

Two images from a flight over Thailand, stitched into one

In looking back, the last couple of posts about my late friend Pee's rise and fatal fall in the go go business were a lot heavier than I'd like the tone of the blog to be - and I'm sorry about that - but his story had been on my mind for some time now. I felt that since he'd passed it might be a way to relieve some of my own sadness, and if it raised the awareness in just one person and saves a single life I'll gladly take the heat for it.

The post from last Friday spoke of me standing high above the shore and watching the waves pounding the rocks below. The shore and the forest are two of my best "thinking" spots, and since it had just arrived in the mail the previous afternoon you can be sure I had that photo of Pee and I in my pocket that day. The disaster the surfers were flirting with on the rocks was another reminder of Pee and his job, although I wasn't quite ready to share about it here just yet.

Likewise the posts from January 19 (On Having a Dream - Especially Today) and the Thai safe sex info in the next day's Better to Light a Candle, both of which were written just after I'd heard that Pee had passed on.

My thanks to those who left comments or sent emails of condolence. I won't publish them here, but I appreciated them. One asked for a photo of him, but that's not going to happen - and anyone who may have met or spent time with him from his Soi Twilight time knew him by a different name, anyway. Pee wasn't a close friend, but he was a friend; one who definitely didn't deserve the cards he was dealt, as far as I could ever see.

Thanks for listening... now let's move forward.


Anonymous said...

Grieving for a friend, close or not,on your personal blog is not too heavy. You lost a friend under terrible circumstances and the tone was understandable and not heavy. I thank you for letting us readers know the situation. Pee deserves to be grieved in a proper fashion and why shouldn't we be able to help with that? Thank you for letting us know so we can add our voices to yours in praising Pee and thanking his family and friends for being there and keeping you informed.

khunbaobao said...

Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Never apologize for grief. Speaking our losses to each other actually serves to soften and sweeten a world that grows more hardened and insensitive with each passing decade.

khunbaobao said...

I agree that if we would (we can, but too often just don't) share our feelings on things in a positive manner it might educate a world that - let's face it - is rather short on tolerance and understanding.